I’m going to keep this short and sweet.
"Heroes shouldn’t have happy personal lives. They are committed to being that person and committed to defending others at the sacrifice of their own personal interests.”
“That’s very important and something we reinforced,” he continued. … It’s wonderful that they try to establish personal lives, but it’s equally important that they set them aside. That is our mandate, that is our edict and that is our stand.”—-Dan Didio, Baltimore Comic Con in response the anti-marriage edict at DC Comics
Bullshit. Cowardice. Limited. Immature. Depressing. Fundamentally insulting and wrong.
It’s an insulting view on what makes a person a true hero.
Our world is filled with people—-no matter their sexual orientation—-who make great sacrifices for other people and who put others needs before their own. Some of those people choose to remain single. But many of those men and women have made the choice to be with the person they love. Many of them are married or would CHOOSE to be married if our government would grant them true equality—-and many of them have children.
Our police officers. Our firefighters. The men and women—both gay and straight—-of our armed forces. These people are true heroes.
To imply that the only way that a person can truly commit to a heroic journey is to be denied any kind of satisfaction in their personal life is at best, deeply immature and, at worst, deeply insulting to the people who actually do save lives every single day and who do it knowing full well that when duty calls…they have to go….even if it means that it’s difficult to leave the people they love to do so.
To imply that it’s not possible to sustain good, entertaining, exciting drama while also exploring healthy, long term relationships is immature and limiting. It reeks of a Peter Pan complex and an immature emotional mindset about sex, love and commitment. It reeks of an industry that continues to coddle this idea that men should never really grow up.
I don’t read about heroes to be depressed. I read about them to be inspired. Part of that inspiration is the idea that yes….it’s possible to take a risk on love. To not live in fear. That even though you might be risking everything….that love can be worth the risk. I believe in love. I believe that love is worth the risk and I believe that the world’s greatest heroes—-particularly the heroes that are supposed to be bringing us hope—-would also be courageous enough to stand up and fight for love as opposed to living in fear.
It was immature cowardice when they gutted the Supermarriage as opposing to having the courage to actually put mature writers on the book. It was cowardice when they re-wrote the Flash marriage. It’s cowardice now with Kate and Maggie with an added bonus of being completely tone deaf and insensitive to what a marriage between two women would mean to people on the page. It’s not inspiring. It’s not mature. It’s not exciting.
So if your goal was to tell “exciting” stories…Congrats. You failed. This is not exciting. This is childish Peter Pan bullshit.